PDM 014: Habits Without Vision

Narrator: Welcome to the home of Project Dream Mastery. Here at PDM, we are challenging the status quo of what it means to follow your dreams and how to unlock the power those dreams will bring to your life. The show experience will be unscripted, authentic and transparent. So now sit back, relax and get inspired with your hosts, Lucas Johnson and Patryk Labuzek.

Patryk Labuzek: Hey, hey, hey. Another week brings another new episode of Project Dream Mastery and today we will be diving into how habits without vision do not last. As simple as that. So it's an amazing day here in Dublin, Ireland and I'm filled with a lot of positive energy yet again. So I'm ready to share all those cool, interesting bits and pieces with you guys. Myself and Lucas are so pumped to have you around and with that said, I feel this episode is going to be epic. You don't want to miss out on it. Download, subscribe to us and have a listen.

Lucas P. Johnson: That's for sure, man. That is for sure. It's going to be epic. So with that, I want to welcome you to the 14th episode of the Project Dream Mastery show where we help inspire you to follow your dreams, defy expectations, dream big and love deeply. My name is Lucas Johnson based out of Charlotte, North Carolina.

Patryk Labuzek: And I'm Patryk Labuzek based out of Dublin, Ireland.

Lucas P. Johnson: Can you believe this is episode 14, Patrick?

Patryk Labuzek: This is crazy. We've gone through a lot, a lot of content, a lot of powerful content I feel and man, there's still so much we can talk about. It's crazy. It's like a never-ending loop. I'm loving it.

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Patryk Labuzek: So Lucas, the topic for today's episode is a very, very powerful one in my opinion because it plays a big part of my life and basically habits without vision do not last. What do you think this means?

Lucas P. Johnson: Paddy, this is definitely very powerful in your life. We talk about it on probably a daily basis or at least when we connect. So, you know, the thing, those things that make you feel good, like a gratitude text or someone saying you look pretty or handsome. I mean I love getting those text. Feel free to hit me up and let me know. It gives me a little bit of a self-confidence boost. But you know, just feel free to do it. You can become a part of my tribe. They don't really help you. They make you feel good for five minutes but tomorrow they're forgotten. They don't last. Now what if someone sent you a message every day that promoted a positive start to the day? Would this last? See, it's not one-off. It's strategic. It's habitual and has a powerful vision to make an impact. It's actionable. As one of our previous guests, Brenden from MasterTalk mentioned, habits without vision do not last.

Patryk Labuzek: A hundred percent true, Lucas. And I love that you mentioned it because habits are so, so powerful. And in fact, they are a driving force for becoming a better version of yourself. You know, since they're very, very important, I feel like it's crucial for both us and our listeners to understand what a habit is and how to engineer our life around positive habits. So, you know, how to build lifelong habits, that's very important. There is, I'm going to base some of the things we're talking about here around the book that I've read recently. It's still a work in progress but it's a really, really great book called, if you can see here, Atomic Habits by James Clear. Very powerful message. Great, great book to get you guys started. And obviously, I'm not going to repeat what has been said in the book but we're going to just touch on it and kind of talk through it. So, basically habits, right? What do you think they are, Lucas?

Lucas P. Johnson: Man, since I was, I don't know, five years old, and I feel like I knew what a habit was, right? At least that's what I thought I thought. I thought I thought. You know, we have bad habits, we have good habits. But the reason why they become bad is because we keep doing over and over and over again. And going back to the sanity kind of play we talk about in many of our episodes is if you keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result, that's called insanity. Okay? So when it comes to having habits and what is actual definition behind them? For example, I get up every morning and I go take a shower, brush my teeth, put my contacts in, come out, get my breakfast, fill up my water bottle, get a nice gallon. And I actually have it right here. A nice giant gallon of water to start my day. I take probiotics. Okay. So that's my, that's my morning routine. That has become habit. I've made it actionable. I've made it reality. Now, a bad habit smoking a cigar occasionally. I don't smoke cigarettes but occasionally I like a nice stogie. I like to go out and have

Patryk Labuzek: Oh, I know how you like your Cuban cigars, Lucas. I know well too well.

Lucas P. Johnson: Well, just occasionally. Just occasionally, buddy. But that's what I, when I think of habits, I think of the things that I have taken massive action to implement in my life and make them a daily routine. Now, the bad habits are the ones that I didn't take action. I just, my brain keeps doing it and I have to retrain myself to make those habits better, good, whatever you want to look at that approach. So for me, Paddy, that's my kind of my vision and my definition for habits. How about you?

Patryk Labuzek: Yeah. So a hundred percent, a hundred percent relatable, Lucas. And love what you brought up there. You know, those good habits versus bad habits. So bad habits basically happen because we relax our brain and we allow it to do all the hell that it wants. You know what I mean? Like we as humans, human beings, we are lazy in nature. We prefer to take the easy way out but there's this whole idea of being lazy. We can turn it around to building a positive habit. And it's very, very powerful because if we figure out a way, a very easy way, an effortless way that we can build a positive habit that's going to impact our life in lifelong. None of that short term habit. A lifelong habit that's going to help us achieve our potential and our successes in a very, very easy way that's' going to be effortless. We're going to do it. We're going to do it. Just like all the bad habits that we're doing it without even thinking about it. So it's very important that we do that. But the first thing is we need to learn how to create, how the engineer our habit. So in the book, Atomic Habits, the author basically breaks down building a habit into two phases. So we have the first phase which is called the problem phase and then we have a solution phase. And into those two phases, there are four different laws that go in. So let's focus on the first phase which is the problem phase, right? The problem phase. So spotting a problem. So there's a cue, C-U-E that we spot, right? It's something that, you know, we feel. It's like oh, this thing is interesting, right? We need to start craving it. We need to start to desire it. And only then when we desire something, we are driven. We are driven to achievement. We are driven to do something about our life to fulfill that desire, you know, to trigger that cue, to make it a reality. So that's the problem phase, spotting the problem and making it a desire, right? The next phase is the solution phase and the third law is basically response. And we've touched on this time and time again with our guests, with our last guest, Travis Bell as well. He told us that you have to take action. It's so important. Like things there is the piece of paper still there. Yeah.

Lucas P. Johnson: My bucket list.

Patryk Labuzek: Exactly, the bucket list. So damn important to take response, to take action to reach that desire that we mentioned before, right? And then comes the reward and the reward is important. It's important because we like to be rewarded. Simple as that. When you mentioned that oh, you like to receive your text saying oh, you're handsome, it's a little reward for the hard work that you put in. You know, you feel, I don't even know what to call it.

Lucas P. Johnson: Similar to a dog, man. When a dog gets a bone, it gets a treat, they get super excited. They go crazy. You know, that's the kind of excitement I feel when I get that handsome text. So feel free to send them.

Patryk Labuzek: I know, right. So exactly. That's the reward that you're getting. You feel better about yourself. It's a big confidence boost. So going through those four phases of building a habit, right? The most important one is rewarding yourself afterwards, after you do something each day for 20 years, 30 days. It's important to reward yourself every single time. How do you reward yourself, Lucas, for, I don't know? Maybe first of all, what is, what habit do you have that, you know, maybe you started a year or two ago but you are trying to keep it for the rest of your life that positively impacts you, positively develops you and helps you to reach your goals and successes in the future?

Lucas P. Johnson: So before I answer that, I just want to recap. What are the four laws? We have problem, solution. I think I might've missed one. We have rewards.

Patryk Labuzek: Those are the two phases. So you have a problem phase and a solution phase. Each of these phases is broken into two lots. Problem phase, we have the cue or the desire, right? And the craving for it. So we need to crave something to allow us to push ourselves forward, right? Don't we all? Don't we all? Right now I crave some coffee. Anyway, skip that part

Lucas P. Johnson: Get your mind out of the gutter, guys. I don't mean those cravings.

Patryk Labuzek: Yes. Solution phase. We have the third law, the response, an action that needs to be taken to take that leap. And then we have the reward.

Lucas P. Johnson: Okay. Okay. So now in my life I have found myself committing to a lot of really bad habits. And the reason for that is because I've allowed myself to do that. I didn't make them actionable. I didn't do anything. I just said hey, I want to have pizza at 11 o'clock at night. I'm going to go eat entire extra large pizza. And, you know, in the previous episodes, I talked about my journey over the last six months to change my life for the better. Now I guess we're going on seven, man. Crazy, crazy since COVID started. So my habits have become a reality because I decided to take massive action. It was honestly one day, it wasn't one day. You know, it was one day that I decided to actually pursue and make it a reality but it took me seven years to truly say wow, Lucas, you suck. You know, Paddy, we've been all over the world. Wouldn't say all over but we've been to a bunch of really good great places that have allowed us to develop and further progress our future and also improve our mindset. Now there's a bunch of things that our guests have brought to my attention and that I've started to incorporate in my life. You know, for example, just from the last episode, my bucket list. That is a challenge that we have accepted and I'm going to implement that into my life. You know, going through each of those steps, the 12 steps. Because a bucket list isn't just creating a travel list of places I want to go to. It's actual. There's all kinds of aspects, people you want to meet, your proud achievements, buy that special something, unlimited challenges, you know, conquer a fear. There's all these things that actually make up a bucket list, the things you want to do before you die, the things you want to achieve, the gratitude, instant gratification. So just everything we've learned from these guests, I've started to apply to my life and going back to the habits that I started back in March. Seven years of telling myself okay, Lucas you can have that pizza. Lucas, you can, you can skip that session to the gym because you look good. It wasn't until I realized kind of looking in the mirror, seeing myself at 270 fucking pounds, 270 pounds. I am five foot 10. I've played football my entire like, you know, school life. I guess 18 years. Oh, no, 13 years of football, something like that. And I was so used to being the lineman that I just would eat. You know, have fun with guys, you know, didn't have to worry about it. Just get bigger and bigger and bigger. Then I looked in the mirror. Looked in the mirror in March. People always said oh, yeah, you got a little bit of fluff. They never told me that I just, I looked unhealthy. It wasn't fat. I mean, yeah, I think I was fat. But that's all perspective. For me, Paddy, when I lookeded in that mirror, I saw someone that was probably going to die earlier in life. You know, relating back to what Trav said. You have 80 squares roughly, you know, for now. Average age for a man is 79 and 83 for a female. I wanted to make habits that would change my life. Actionable, smart goals, so forth. And you, since this is so close to your heart, I was ecstatic whenever you said man, I want, I want to do this. Like this is what we're doing. Because we don't get enough time to ourselves to really say, look ourselves in the mirror and ask ourselves those important questions. You know, we have problems. We all do. And we need to spot those. We have desires. You know, we're driven. And one thing that again, Trav said in the last episode is relationships. How do we create better habits in our relationships? Things that translate to our life. You know, it's powerful shit that we're talking about.

Patryk Labuzek: Yeah, Lucas. And, you know, create a habit goes all the way back to not living by default. We need to take time off. We need to pause. The power of a pause not only in speech but the power of a pause in our busy, busy life. And we need to take that pause. We need to sit down, you know, whether it's creating a bucket list which is very, very important obviously to creating habits which require our own time. We need to take it out from our busy schedule, our calendar to reflect on ourselves, to pick out the bad habits. See, it's very surprising that people don't spot those. They're too busy. They don't spot these big bad habits.

Lucas P. Johnson: Do they not spot them or do you think they just avoid them?

Patryk Labuzek: That's a very good question indeed. And I'd say we could probably do an entire episode on that question by itself. But in my opinion, what stuck to my mind, what Travis said, right? He said that people live by default in herds. They live by a busy schedule. Okay. Wake up at 8:00 AM, get a cup of coffee, drive to work, do your eight hours, the overtime if needs to be, go back home, eat dinner, sleep, repeat. There is no time to think about your habits. There is no time to acknowledge that you have habits. But all the things, all those little atomic things that we do in our every day, these are at the end of the day, they're habits, right? Everything from how we pick a cup of coffee whether it's with our right hand or whether it's with the left hand, whether we get up from our bed with our right leg or left leg, whether we drive to work in our car or we take public transport. They're all habits and habits that we've created for ourselves. Simple as.

Lucas P. Johnson: So Paddy, that actually just brings up some funny that I'm thinking about public transportation versus our car. Do you think we have gotten into a habit that, I don't know if it's necessarily privacy of being in our own private space, in our own, you know, in our own vehicles instead of using the public transportation that can get you there maybe, it might take a little bit longer but it's going to save, you know, we're not going to have all these carbon emissions and so forth. You know, not to get into that necessarily because obviously that's a controversial topic that Brenden briefly brought up. But do you think people have gotten habits that have immense impact on the way we live our life in our future such as driving a vehicle versus riding public transportation?

Patryk Labuzek: Yes. The answer is yes. And this, if we break up the habits of what you were saying, driving your own vehicle versus driving or getting public transport into work and saving our environment, if break that habit into its first principles, it goes back to the pleasure, pleasure that we all want in our lives. I mean you don't want to be, you don't want to be unhappy. You strive for happiness, right? But what is happiness? Happiness is an ecstasy of some sort. It's like you being filled with that, I don't know, extra threshold energy let's say, right? Being motivated to do things. But at its core, being happy, it's having all those little pleasures, right? That you enjoy in your life. And that's different for every single one of us. So, you know, one of those pleasures is for me at least, it was owning my own nice car. Like I always wanted that. You know what I mean? So essentially what I'm trying to say is driving a car versus public transport, the habit itself, it could be good or bad depending on the person. If it's something, having your own vehicle, having whatever your dream car, if this was your desire, you made it a habit to make it come true. You take that off your bucket list. That's a positive habit. But you can look at it the other way around. You can look at it I'm going to take my car to work even though it's a 10 minute walk or a 15 minute bus ride away. I'm going to take my car because it's the easy way out.

Lucas P. Johnson: Paddy, I think that that's a really great point you bring up and, you know, I'm really glad you answered it that way. Because for a lot of the times when I'm thinking about my habits, I think about what can I do better. I'm not above it. Don't get me wrong. I have my own personal vehicle. Single use is like I like to look at it as a single use because every time I get in, I'm spending a resource, I'm utilizing a resource, something that simply is not going to be there forever. Public transportation is incredible. I mean we used it countless times in all the countries we've been to. We used public transportation obviously because we didn't have a car. Occasionally, we used a GoGet which is phenomenal in Australia especially when we were doing road trips every week. But going away from, you know, taking a step back from the controversial topic, you know, vision connects today's actions to tomorrow's results. You can have a vision for your future, can have a vision for today, vision for your life. But if you don't commit solid, actionable habits, today's actions will not build tomorrow's results. Your desires will not result in pleasures or your pleasures might results in desires. Don't turn your observations into the problems of tomorrow. Go find something in your life that is, you know, stepping into your sanity as Brennan from MasterTalk said, stepping into your sanity. Be insane or be the same. Taking responsibility. It's your life. You know, Paddy, what was the first time that you truly admitted responsibility to your own life? I mean because we don't, just to be fair, we don't truly take responsibility for our actions until we hit a certain age. And even whenever we hit 18 or so forth, we're still like oh, let me reach out to my parents or reach out to my guardian or reach out to someone that's been there for me. And then you become an adult, man. And this is like shit gets real. It's just like shit hits the wall. So what was the step, what led you to take responsibility to create those habits where okay, I'm responsible for this shit? This was me. What was that?

Patryk Labuzek: Yeah. There's one moment in my life hands down. When I was 18 and it's not because of the age. It's not because of me becoming an adult in the sense in our society, right? At least in Europe, 18, you're allowed to drink, you're allowed to smoke, you're allowed to do all those different things. You're considered to be an adult once you turn 18. But like you're saying, the reality is we don't grow up until much older until we start taking responsibility for our life, for our own actions, right? And this might be much, much later depending on yourself. But for me it was 18 and it wasn't just the cliche part that I turned 18. But that was because I finished my high school, secondary school in Ireland. And I decided to take a gigantic leap and go with my best friend to the Philippines. I've never, in fact, I've actually never traveled alone before that. That's number one. Secondly, I've never left Europe. So going to Asia was something extraordinary to even think about. And once I got there, right, once I was there in the Philippines, I wasn't the usual tourist, you know, going to all these touristy spots, living in those nice hotels, five star, four star resorts, whatever you may be doing as a tourist. It wasn't my experience. My experience was very genuine. It was living with my friend who is in fact Filipino and his family in his home in some, you know, smaller city you probably wouldn't have visited if you were a normal traveler, right? So it was a very genuine experience that pushed me into being responsible for myself because I've seen things sadly not enough people see. I've seen actually what real poverty is. I've seen how little a lot of people have. I've seen that running water is a luxury of the modern world. It's a first world luxury. Not many people still have running water. Hot water on top of that. Man, hot water. I didn't get hot water until I got back to Ireland afterwards. It doesn't exist. There's no such thing as hot water. It was wild. And then the people themselves. You know, they had so little, so, so little but they were just so generous. And this particular memory pops into my mind is where we visited my friend's family friends, right? And they live in a very small house, few people in one room, no running water. They just got their electricity connected. And you know, it was more of a shack than a house to be honest. And the only thing that brought them income was a few banana trees they had in their backyard. They would sell the bananas in the market. They would earn money and try to survive off it, right? So this opened my eyes to a lot of things. This open my eyes basically to the fact that even though they had only a handful of banana trees, that it was their only source of income, they presented us with a big ball of bananas basically as a welcoming gift. You know what I mean? That they could have easily sold and, you know, pay their bills for next month or two. So that was very powerful and those experiences, I'm not going to talk about it in detail because I could for literally hours and hours. But those experiences that I collected during the time, I came back to Europe, I changed completely. Like from this boy or a teenager who was 18 and left Ireland, I came back an adult, a true adult that definitely did not take things for granted anymore. I developed personally, I developed mentally, I developed spiritually. It was a gigantic leap and it is in that exact moment that I grasped my life. I was like I am so privileged to do and to be where I am right now in my life, to go to university, to study what I want to study. And I was already planning on my exchange of going to Australia and that hit me. You know, people do not have those privileges. They do not have these opportunities that a lot of people in the world today do. So I've taken my life, I've reconstructed, re-Engineered what I thought, I re-engineered my habits and then I took responsibility from that time on.

Lucas P. Johnson: That gave you vision in relationship to habits. You know, the one thing I can think of in relationship to what we have done together in a similar situation. First off, that's incredible. You know, that's definitely shed some light on the realities of today. You know, first world versus third world and just paying it forward. I mean just showing and sharing that is giving me a new context on life. Now we did have the opportunity to explore Indonesia and Paddy, I remember being on a scooter with a couple of our peers and then I think we got lost. Someone got lost. I can't remember at the time.

Patryk Labuzek: You got lost, Lucas.

Lucas P. Johnson: I got lost. Just myself. It was just me. I ended up getting lost. And the one thing that I know we were as a group, we had this just incredible experience. You know, we weren't in a place that many non-locals go to. I mean we were out in the middle of Indonesia, in the middle of nowhere. Sometimes it was a bit scary. But we have to feel comfortable being uncomfortable, you know? And what happened was we were going through this little tiny village. There's probably like 13-14 houses and I think maybe a couple of stores and maybe a petrol station. And these kids just got out of school, all wearing their uniforms and so forth. And, you know, we're just a bunch of, a couple of different countries that made up our group, but just a bunch of white people. And I'm not saying that to stipulate on any race or anything like that. I'm just saying we were bunch of white people going through Indonesia on these scooters. And these kids just started shouting and like so excited to see us. Like they wanted to take pictures. They were waving at us, saying hello. They were just so excited to see us as if they haven't seen like a non-commoner coming through Indonesia before. We were really out there. And Paddy, that just shows me and it shapes my vision in talking about, you know, going through Asia and exploring Asia. It sheds a new light. It gives you perspective. So that kind of just, it says basically if you aren't open to traveling, please watch some YouTube videos and understand what's going on in the world. But if you are open to traveling, highly suggest you take that leap and you go and explore somewhere that isn't necessarily your pier beach resort in Mexico or your amazing location in Greece or Dublin, Ireland, for example. Make it a habit to do something once a year. Not necessarily something that you fear but something that reshapes and retrains your mind, makes you think differently, opens your brain to new possibilities, have that desire.

Patryk Labuzek: Sorry to break it up there, Lucas. But just to jump in there, right? Very powerful and what I'm getting out of what you're saying is that the entire topic of this conversation, habits without vision do not last. And I would push that even further. Anything without vision does not last. You need your eyes to be open. You need to be cautious about various things in life. You need to take responsibility for your life. You need to see yourself on a road where you're going. You need to know what you're striving for. Why do you want to help people? See, it's that big why. It can always overcome the how. And there's this very great, actually, I have it here in front of me, an amazing, an eye-opening quote by a German philosopher called Friedrich Nietzsche. And he wrote that, let me read it out to you guys, "He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how." I'm going to repeat this.

Lucas P. Johnson: Yeah, repeat that.

Patryk Labuzek: "He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how."

Lucas P. Johnson: Wow.

Patryk Labuzek: Right?

Lucas P. Johnson: Powerful words there.

Patryk Labuzek: So linking this back to our habits which are essentially, you know, a way to reach our desires is basically this, right? If your motivation and desire are great enough, if they carry a great weight to you personally, you will take the action, right? You will do it. You'll take the leap. Even though it might be quite difficult, right? To fulfill that desire. So it's always if you have the big why. The how's don't matter. You'll get to them. And I think this is a quite applicable, Lucas, even to the things like when we went down to Australia. Like in order for you to be accepted into an exchange, you have to over, you had to overcome certain how's, right?

Lucas P. Johnson: I had to overcome obstacles and challenges to do that, man. And then we have a lot of context in Australia. But this is, what you just said, the quote you just read makes me think about how, you know, we have privilege, you know, whatever that stands for, whatever your definition of privilege is. We have had the privilege to do these things that humbly, I'm very humble and grateful for. I'm grateful for every opportunity that we have. But these experiences have shaped us and shaped our mindset. Not everyone is open to traveling and not everyone can travel and we realize that. You know, Paddy, we realize that. There's so many things out there that are going to change your mindset though, you know. But the most important thing that I think that, I guess the two most important things that I've learned and especially from what you were saying is Brenden from MasterTalk, do not yoga. Ask yourself those important questions about life. That's what I'm taking away there. And secondly, what Travis Bell said, be coachable, learn from others. So Paddy, Australia was incredible and we have so many things to share about that adventure and that journey we had and the people.

Patryk Labuzek: Yes, Lucas, and why it was incredible goes down to the fact that, and that's my personal opinion, right? Is that being curious is better than being smart. I mean you can be a genius, an absolute genius in your specific field whether it's math, physics, I don't know, literature. You can be a whiz. But if you're stuck in your four walls, right? You're not opening your eyes towards outside. You have to be curious to take a leap. Without the curiosity, without the motivation, you will not take action. And as we know, it's not the if, it's the when that's the most important. And if you don't take the action, the when is never going to happen.

Lucas P. Johnson: Wow. Can you repeat that?

Patryk Labuzek: We're saying that it's not the if but the when that's important. And if you don't take action, the when is never going to happen.

Lucas P. Johnson: Shit. Paddy, you want there. Man, sounds like a challenge. It's not if, it's when. Paddy, I remember when we started this. We started this journey and this was a year ago that I asked you, I was like hey, man, what do you think about coming onto Coachington? I mean it's kind of got a little bit of a flow but not much working here. What do you think about turning this into something amazing? A-M-azing. Without hesitation, you go hell yes. Taken us a year to get where we are now. And when we started, we said if this takes off, then that mindset changed. It's when this takes off. And then that changed even further. Every single week that we released an episode, we change people's lives. We impact someone's mindset. Our guests inspire others to defy expectations, dream big and love deeply. Our talks right now are the things that we have learned that have inspired us, that have shaped us, that have helped us find vision, o build habits that are going to create success in your life but have also created success in ours. When we get one view, we're changing one person's life, one mindset. When we get two, we're making a major impact. We define our success by the small wins. That's the habits we want to keep on pursuing and achieving. Be curious, not smart. Be smart but don't cause problems that aren't there. Don't turn your observations in the problem. One person's better than zero. You know, Paddy, a lot of the times we talk about in our, in our episodes about kind of, I guess this is kind of the higher level. We have four walls that surround us. In this case, I got one, two, three, and I got two openings here. But we have four walls. So take this as a simple experiment in your head. And if you're listening, just walk through it with me. Sometimes I picture myself in a jail cell. It's got four walls, solitary confinement. It's just me, myself and I. No one around me. No judgment. The thoughts that could remotely change the way I think. I typically do this at night or early morning and I sit there in complete and utter silence. The power of a pause. I put myself in those four walls. No distractions. My phone has been removed from the equation. I've placed it in a different location in my house, my apartment. I've removed all technology. I put Alexa on mute because she's always listening. And I've thought about the things that I want to conquer, the things that I want to accomplish. And I ask myself what problems am I facing today that I can improve tomorrow. I want to put everything down on a list and allow myself to get it off my head. Throw it on a list. Think about how we can improve it for tomorrow. Take notes, take note, reconsider that you are in a box, four walls. Okay? Think about the habits that you want to create and make them a lasting impact on your life. Doesn't have to be difficult. This exercise is super simple. Four walls. I mean you need to change your life to hopefully live a happier, more fulfilled life for the rest of your life. Say this like three times. Travis Bell talked about this and actually all of our guests have talked about this. The only enemy that you face, that we all face is time. You are stuck in that four, you're stuck in that cell with four walls. Your only enemy is time. If you take the 20 minutes or hour to sit in that cell by yourself in complete utter silence, to think about the things that are important to you, life will change. But you have to take the next 60 days, 90 days, whatever it is to make those a reality, those actionable steps a reality. So Paddy, going back to your, you know, you can exit the cell now, going back to what we're talking about today, habits without vision do not last. If you use that as exercise, that four walls, a jail cell, to find your vision, to find your purpose, to find your why. And one of the best things that you can do that especially when we're thinking about it from Simon Sinek's point of view is find your why. You know, start with why. You can't find habits if you don't know what your purpose is. Paddy, we talked about those two questions. I really love the stuff that we get from our guests because it really impacts my life but it also impacts you. And just the one thing I heard was from again, Brenden from MasterTalk, this is fresh in my head and also Brenden, Brenden brings this up as well. You have to ask yourself those real questions, those two questions. What do you want to do to change this world, to leave your mark on this world? And two, what do you want to do in your life to impact your life, to change your life, to live the best life? So Paddy, I ask you, when it comes to habits, what are you doing right now to live those two questions, to live the answer to those two questions, make those habits a reality to answer those two questions?

Patryk Labuzek: Right. Well, I'm making the habits a reality right now by talking to you, by recording this as a podcast show. Simple as that. It's an action that I'm making right now. This 45 minutes or so episode, maybe an hour or so, we'll see, it's taking time out of my personal life and I'm placing it to do something important, to help people. Hopefully, to help people, to inspire people, to motivate people, to help them find their why and the how and help them build their habits and become a better version of themselves. Be successful. I'm taking that hour of my life where I could be doing something else. I could be earning money right now for instance. And I'm putting it into this and that's important to me and that's an action that helps me reach my goals and my desires right now.

Lucas P. Johnson: Your vision can be your passion. But what if you don't have a passion, Paddy? Your vision can be your passion. But what if you don't have a passion? See, that's a hard one, right?

Patryk Labuzek: It's a very difficult one. But I do not believe, truly I do not believe that people don't have passions. Let me rephrase. I don't believe people don't have passions. But sometimes people maybe didn't discover their passions yet. And that's different. We are definitely, all of us, we're definitely passionate about something and it doesn't matter what it is. We're passionate about Project Dream Mastery. Somebody's passionate about their dog. Somebody's passionate about their job. Somebody's passionate about family, religion. They're all passions. How do we envision ourselves within those passions? That's what's important. And what do we do with our lives? What are our habits associated with those passions that drive us to be better, to help people? That's the questions we should be asking ourselves. And if you, the listener, you can't think of a passion that you have, well, that's exactly the right time to sit down, take the 20, 40, one hour, you know, time of your life, create a bucket list, a conscious bucket list, what Travis Bell was talking about. And I guarantee you will find your passions. You will find your desires.

Lucas P. Johnson: We'll link the description to that episode below and in the show notes by the way if you're curious. Now, Paddy, I think that's right on par on bucket list. You know? Thinking just about what we're doing here. If this doesn't reach anyone, it's reached us. And having these conversations aren't necessarily easy. And if you're listening, these are 99% unscripted. Now the first part we always, we like to have a good, solid intro. But don't judge. But 99% unscripted. So all this is fresh. It's off our minds. It's stuff that is related to our life, our experiences. And I think it's just important to understand that everyone's got their own vision. And Paddy, the question, I wasn't, it wasn't meant to be a trick question. Your vision can, your vision can be your passion but what if you don't have a passion. It wasn't meant to be a trick question. It was just meant to make you think because our life has so many ups and downs that we forget that we actually have passion. That passion can be scuba diving for me. That could be drinking that cup of coffee for Patryk. That he loves, he loves coffee. I'm not, I'm not joking. Like this guy will go out of his way to find a solid coffee bean shop and he will pick up all these different types and he tries to bring them back to his country even though sometimes they don't make it back.

Patryk Labuzek: Unfortunately.

Lucas P. Johnson: But for you, these passions might be so much different. This could be maybe ballet or it could be politics. It could be one of those. It could be your animal. You know, I have passion for pets. Could be that it's your job. Just briefly, I want to mention that your job is a major part of your life and you should never ever feel that you shouldn't be able to talk about it. If you can't share your life which your job makes up a major percentage of, then you need to reevaluate your tribe and upgrade. So going back to our overall objective for today, habits without vision do not last. Focus on those four laws, you know, there's two phases. So Paddy, I want you to repeat those just so we have a conclusion, a wrap-up on what we've talked about today from our fellow author James Clear from Atomic Habits. So this is a topic that was completely spurred from that and is passionate to Patrick. And because it's, because it is, Patrick is so passionate about it, I am also passionate about it because we have a similar and common vision for where we see ourselves in five years, 10 years and what we see for Project Dream Mastery. So Paddy, go ahead. Share that. Share those four, four laws, there's two phases, those two stages with them so that we can, we can wrap up the show and give them a brief overview of what we talked about.

Patryk Labuzek: Yeah. So a habit is broken down into two phases. The problem phase, the solution phase. Two phases. Each of these two phases has two principles, two laws that you might call them, right? So looking at the first phase, the problem phase, we have law on which is the cue and the cue is a thought in our mind that we turn into a desire. Okay? Two, second law, it's craving. It's craving that desire, craving that thing, that cue in the back of our head. Okay?

Lucas P. Johnson: That also might be something your mind would be in a gutter right now. But in honesty, in all honesty, Paddy, this is just, I want to jump in here real quick. In all honesty, that's completely normal. You know, people are struggling right now to find love, you know, because of, again, another topic we talked about in a previous episode. People are struggling because of social media and they need to find something to fulfill that craving, that desire. So maybe your, maybe your sex life isn't where you want it to be. Or maybe you just want someone to be in your life that's going to kind of fill a void. Okay? Yeah. But your life shouldn't necessarily have to be filled with that person. That's just a craving. You need to figure out, you, you need to figure out what you, what you stand for, who you are. You'll satisfy that craving by satisfying yourself.

Patryk Labuzek: And I'm gonna jump right in there because you bring up the next law right there. in order to do that, you need to take response. There has to be an action. You have to got out of your way. You have to take that leap. You have to do whatever it is to achieve that goal, right?

Lucas P. Johnson: Right.

Patryk Labuzek: And only after you do that, you can reward yourself for doing it. It's hard work. Reward yourself. Make it pleasurable. And only when you do that, the habit is going to stick with you and you're going to repeat it over and over and over again hopefully for the rest of your days. And I think there's no better place than this to wrap this episode up.

Lucas P. Johnson: I agree. I agree. So why don't you give them their homework for this week and let them get started with taking massive action in their life. This is going to be an amazing rest of 2020, first of 2021. If you're listening to this, you are going to do amazing things and we are standing right next to you to make that a reality. So feel free to reach out to us. But Paddy give them their homework. Let's do this.

Patryk Labuzek: Guys, go follow Project Dream Mastery on all of our socials. Remember again that on Thanksgiving Day 2020, we're giving away some sweet merch to some of our followers. So keep on top of that. Most importantly for today I think, read this book. This book right here. It's a little Bible as you say to building your positive habits called Atomic Habits by James Clear. Highly recommended. For me, it's still a work in progress. It takes some time but it's a proven way of building good and healthy habits for yourself. So definitely check that out. And last but not least, take massive action, massive action by setting habits and have a vision and actual steps for making them a reality. Create the bucket list we talked about in the last episode. It's so, so, so important.

Lucas P. Johnson: So powerful, so powerful. I want to ask you one last question, Paddy, before we wrap completely up here. What do you mean it's a work in progress? How can this be a work in progress for them?

Patryk Labuzek: It's just a step at a time. You can't do everything at once. It's a day-by-day thing and I made it a habit of myself. Make yourself better. That's my habit. Whether that's reading a book, listening to our podcast, talking with our amazing guests, that is the habit. That's a habit that I envision myself that will help me become, well, not successful even. Successful to myself meaning I will be fulfilled with what I'm doing and I'm going to reach that happiness. So guys

Lucas P. Johnson: It's not if, it's when.

Patryk Labuzek: Just every day.

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