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Do you ever look at yourself in the mirror or notice a certain habit of yourself and wonder why you do the things that you do? Do you wonder what people think about you? Welcome to the club because believe it or not, we are all alike. In totality, weird is the new normal, and Patryk and Lucas are here with yet another episode of PDM to bring this perspective into your life.
It’s a give-and-take society that we live in and it is because of this reason that we need to stop making people feel inferior or bad for being different. Lucas tosses in an important element to the ongoing conversation and mentions that often we wonder who are we and why are we the way we are. Every human being is different and that’s what adds beauty to this world.
Imagine having the same conversations, thoughts, and perspectives in every single corner of the world. It might be okay at first but imagine how boring life would get? So don’t take it for granted… Always remember, one man’s normal is always another man’s weird. Lucas and Patryk constantly remind listeners to ‘embrace’ their weird self. Many times, people feel that the word ‘weird’ has a negative connotations and try too hard to blend in with the herd.
You need to understand that the only person who truly needs to accept you, is you. Remember, you are at the top of your pyramid. You decide who gets to be a part of your tribe. However, it is a harsh reality that the realization and courage to accept your true self comes much later. As kids, we all are taught to blend in and fit into certain situations, cultures, etc. Anything that deviates from a commonly accepted behavior is dubbed as ‘weird’.
Patrick reminisces back to his days in high school where he tried to participate in fencing and Japanese martial arts secretly to avoid other kids making fun of him. He couldn’t have emphasized his thoughts any better by saying… “It is better to become a lone wolf than a sheep in the herd. People need to normalize being weird.”
Lucas reminds the listeners that the key to unlocking your true potential is by embracing the parts in you that stand out. The world will always try to make you get comfortable with the idea of blending in but you must not lose track of yourself in the process. Being different can be done even in the simplest of things, or as Lucas puts it, ‘the weird socks’ theory! And 2020 may have not been the best year but it sure has pulled people out of their comfort zones.
You'll Learn
It is okay to be different as long as you accept yourself the way you are
It is also important to accept others for what they are
Why is it important to normalize being weird
It is not just the big decisions in your life but even the most trivial of the things that matter
The importance of getting out of your comfort zone
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You can be who you want to be. You can do whatever you want to do. It doesn't matter where you are in life. You just need to understand that the only one that needs to accept you, is you. Share on XIt's those people who are weird, who show their true selves, who spread their weird ideas... that at the end of the day are the most successful people on our little planet. Share on X
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PDM 018: Are You Weird? Because Weird Is The New Norm
Patryk Labuzek: How many times do you look at the mirror and wonder why do you do the things that you do? Or do you ever wonder what people think about you? Truth be told, we all do. We all wonder. Truth be told, we are all weird. And weird is the new norm. So think about what that means to you as we roll the intro.
Narrator: Welcome to the home of Project Dream Mastery. Here at PDM, we are challenging the status quo of what it means to follow your dreams and how to unlock the power those dreams will bring to your life. The show experience will be unscripted, authentic and transparent. So now sit back, relax and get inspired with your hosts, Lucas Johnson and Patryk Labuzek.
Lucas P. Johnson: Welcome to the 18th episode of the Project Dream Mastery show where we help inspire you to follow your dreams, defy expectations, dream big and most importantly, not most importantly, but love deeply. My name is Lucas Johnson based out of Charlotte, North Carolina.
Patryk Labuzek: And I'm Patryk Labuzek based out of Dublin, Ireland.
Lucas P. Johnson: Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast to be the first to receive new episode releases. And if you're interested, this episode is available with video. So check out our website at PojectDreamMastery.com to watch now.
Patryk Labuzek: You are in for a treat today. Have you heard weird is the new norm? Because if you haven't, well, well, well, we're about to drop a knowledge bomb on your life right now. It's okay to be different. It's okay to do things your own way. And I'm even going to say it's better to do it that way. So let's take a deeper dive into it.
Lucas P. Johnson: You know, when we were trying to come up with topics and every week, it is just, it's really tough to think about what it means in the current moment and what's going on in society, what's going on in life and what is truly going to be applicable. This week is applicable, not just the current moment but every single day of your life. Every single day. Have you ever really wondered, like Paddy was saying, have you ever really wondered what it means to look at the mirror or what it feels like to look at the mirror, wonder why are you who you are? Who are you to determine someone else's, you know, look or someone else's thoughts? So I want to say this. Let weird be the new norm. Stop making people feel less for being into different things and not being the same as you.
Lucas P. Johnson: We have so much to offer. We have so much to give. We have so much to take. It's a give and take society we live in, Paddy. You got to give something to take something. You got to give into the life what you put, what you take. So I want to drop a question, pose a question to you, Paddy. Have you ever looked in the mirror? I'm sure you have knowing you, buddy. Have you ever looked in the mirror, that one that's like back to the left right there, and said, why am I who I am? Why do I do what I do? Who am I in the vision of today? What society has all these expectations? Who am I? And why am I so awesome?
Patryk Labuzek: Great way of putting it. Super positive. Really loving that. Yeah.
Lucas P. Johnson: After last week's episode, buddy, we gotta be positive.
Patryk Labuzek: A hundred percent. Look at it this way. As I grew to the person that I am now, things changed. One of the things that changed is what I put in my room as well. And one of the things that I've put in my room, you can't see it, but to the right there, I have a huge mirror on my wardrobe. Right? Gigantic. Why is that? It's because I've come to realize that when I wake up each morning and I stand up, I look in the mirror and I reflect on myself. I ask myself those questions that you've posed on me. Like who I am? What makes me me? How can I be better? You know, it's just a little self reflection that plays a gigantic part of my life, a gigantic habit in the morning for me. I stand up from my bed, you know, knowing that, okay, I have to face all those different things today.
Patryk Labuzek: And that I have planned out a routine of some sorts. Sometimes exciting, sometimes less. I look in the mirror and I ask myself those questions. And do you know what I realized? I realized I'm weird and that's a good thing. And I do all those different things that not many people, you know, honestly, not many people our age do that. You know, I'm not saying I'm on top of my game, but I do all those different things. I did this, I did that. I go to work and I wonder how the hell I do all those things. My day is.
Lucas P. Johnson: You're a complete weirdo.
Patryk Labuzek: Man, completely. And I don't know, like I'm a positive weirdo, man. I'm positive. I'm loving it. I'm not denying that. I'm weird. Everybody's weird. Every single person is weird.
Lucas P. Johnson: Huh? You think I'm a weirdo? You know what, Paddy? I am a weirdo. And I proudly accept that. I get up and I look at the mirror every single morning. And for the longest time, I never wanted to go out and be the person I am or the person I was. I looked in the mirror and I saw a person that needed to be someone that society wanted. If you're listening, how many times have you looked at that mirror, just said, am I really being me? As they say in 2020, my mom's least favorite word's of this year are transparent and unprecedented when I have a chance to talk with her. But I'm going to use one of those words. Are you being transparent with yourself? It's 2020. We're about to go to 2021, bro. You know, being weird is okay. Being weird is the new norm.
Lucas P. Johnson: We're living in a society that is remote. So why can't you be weird, dude? I have been the happiest I have been in a long time, not only working remote but just being able to be who I am every single day whether it be with my family or my friends. And just knowing that I don't care what they think. Dude, I look at the mirror and I have a quote. Firm believer, I got WWJD. What would Jesus do? And then I have another one that says today, what perspective are you going to give? Is it going to be yours? Or is it going to be someone else's? We all learn. We learn from other's perspective, but we grow our own. I want to live my own perspective. I want to live my own life. So Paddy, we're weird. We are some of the weirdest weirdos there possibly could be, man.
Lucas P. Johnson: We get up and we do our thing and don't care what anyone thinks. You've got a blog, AlwaysSomewhere.net. I'm going to pop that in there, AlwaysSomewhere.net. And Paddy comes up with the coolest stuff. I mean we've both been on these travels. I didn't get to do some of them with you. Wish I did, man. I really do. And it's crazy to think that someone could call you weird. You're enjoying every moment, man. So what do you have to say to those people that are feeling weird or feeling like they're different and they aren't accepted in this society that just has so many damn expectations on us, man? What do you have to say?
Patryk Labuzek: I was just thinking about it right there and the whole title of this episode, Weird is the New Normal. It's great. It's amazing in so many ways because every single one of us is weird. Okay. Put it this way. Every single one of us is different to start off. Every human is different and that's what makes our planet exciting. Like you wouldn't want to see the same person on every single corner, right? Having the same conversation over and over again, having, you know, the same people, all the people in our planet, on earth doing the same thing. Like how boring would life be? Like even though our thoughts are aligned, me and you, Lucas, even though we believe in the same things, we are different people. We are weird in different ways. And it's important that people realize that they are different. And by saying that they are weird, there are some things that you do that someone else thinks, oh man, that's weird.
Patryk Labuzek: You know? Like oh, you.
: I'm crossing my arms right now. Is that weird?
Patryk Labuzek: To someone, it might be weird that we're putting this podcast out there. It might be weird that I'm creating a blog. It might be weird that, you know, I do all these crazy travels. And to be honest, I look back at them and I think it's weird too because the shit that I do sometimes, it's unbelievable. I mean the shit that we do when we travel, it's unbelievable. Like man, the amount of stories we've got to say, that share. It's crazy. But what I'm trying to say is weird is good. Okay? It's amazing. It's cool. It's cool to be weird. It's cool to be different because deep down we all are. It's natural to be different. It's natural to do things differently than our next door neighbor, to our mom, our dad, our brother, our sister, our best friend. That's what makes life exciting. Embrace it.
Lucas P. Johnson: Yeah. That's a good word right there. I'm actually gonna write that down. Embrace it. And the reason why I take notes and we talked about this before we started the show is I really enjoy writing things down on a piece of paper. Journaling. I don't do the whole get in before bed and journal everything. I like doing it in the moment and I like thinking about what this topic means to me. And I challenge you to do the same. When you're listening to these episodes or any one's episodes, not just ours. There's a lot of great podcasts out there. I don't think ours is the one and only. Obviously, there are some really great podcasts out there. Pull out a journal, take note, take note, not notes. Just take note whether that is a bunch of notes or just one, something that stands out to you. And if you're taking anything away from today, just understand that you can be who you want to be. You can do whatever you want to do. It doesn't matter where you are in life. You just need to understand that the only one that needs to accept you is yourself. And one of the topics we'll later discuss in one of our future episodes, which Paddy and I haven't discussed yet, is there's four ways of looking at it. The four different expectations you have. Four different views. And for me, it's yourself.
Lucas P. Johnson: That's at the top of the pyramid. Then it's my faith, your faith, whatever that may be. Then it's my family. And at the bottom, it's my friends, it's my closest tribe, it's my closest advisors. Those are the four. Do I need them to accept me? No. But the one at the top, right there is self. That pyramid, self, faith, family, friends, close advisors, those three below, they don't accept me. They'll be it. The thing is when you have a family that loves you, supports you and wants to be in your life, they're going to accept you. If you've got two or four of those and I guess your faith. Your faith is always going to accept you I mean for the most part. Let's be real. So you're most likely going to have three of this four. That's 75% average. You're doing pretty good, my friend. Doing pretty good. So Paddy, I want to bring something into, I kind of want to shed some light on this because I feel like this is something we don't talk about because people are not only afraid of talking about it out loud and I mean even in a setting like this where we're talking to thousands of listeners. And thank you for listening by the way. Growing up, we all go through high school, middle school, elementary school, sometime homeschool and in current society, remote school, virtual learning.
Lucas P. Johnson: I remember trying to start a business when I was 11 or 12 years old. And I thought it was the coolest thing in the world. But telling my friends that I was doing it, I thought they would think I was weird. So I didn't tell them. When I was 16, I started this business called Coachington with one of my really good friends, one of my best friends. We went to church together and we just had this idea because something happened in our lives that really impacted us. So we grew from that. We built something. But I was afraid to share it. I was afraid to tell people because I thought they would think I was weird. But see, the thing is, and this is why I believe the things I do nowadays, is why have secrets? Because secrets are always going to find a way out. To my secret of Coachington, not telling people, it found its way out.
Lucas P. Johnson: I didn't tell anyone besides, I mean the guy, my buddy, that I was working with. You know what happened, Paddy? You know what happened? The people that I loved, the people that I trusted, the people that were my closest primary closest circle which is why you have people down there. And like Paddy's like a brother to me so he's in family and all my good friends here are like family. But the people at the bottom, when they found out, they started making fun of me. And I thought I was weird. I did. They started joking around. I don't know if it was making fun, but it was definitely, you know, making jokes like all right. And I actually had one friend that took all the episodes that we put up on YouTube and saved them locally to his computer. And he would make jokes at parties he'd go to.
Lucas P. Johnson: It's really just crazy to think that when you have moments like that where someone is saving something that's really important to you and putting it out there in the world as a joke is just, it's not cool. It's crazy to think that in those moments, I was feeling like I was weird. But in reality, man, I was bigger. I was more mature. I was at a point in my life where a lot of folks my age at the time just, I don't know if they were, I'm not saying that I'm up here or not. I'm just saying that I had a lot of time to grow from wanting to seek out that entrepreneurship stuff. And hell, I was weird. I was a weird kid growing up. I mean I was and I'm truthfully proud of that, Paddy.
Lucas P. Johnson: I am so proud to be weird. And if you're listening, you should be too. Accept yourself first and foremost. Doesn't matter what you are, who you are, where you're from, being weird is great. You're one of a kind as Roman Atwood says. He's one of my idols if you haven't been able to tell, Paddy. He's one of my role models. And I look at people. Be you. You're one of a kind. And I don't mean to take his thunder, but man, that is such strong, strong, saying, strong quote. So I'm going to pass this to you, Paddy. What time in your life has challenged you to have to adapt whether it be trying to be normal, as they say, quote unquote, whatever that means? Or a situation that you had to face that made you realize that it's time to just be you? Because I know that we've had chats and how much you've changed since we've met each other. But before that, you said that you had leaps and bounds to overcome before you got to the point where you are today.
Patryk Labuzek: A hundred percent. And I think all of this happened, this big personal growth that was building up happened in high school. And I think that's true for most of us. You know? When we're kids, it's fine to be weird. I mean like weird when we're children running around making friends is a positive thing. You know? You want to be weird. You want to come up with crazy ideas to play around with your mates and it's fun. And you know, your peers see that as fun. They don't judge you. They don't look down on you because you're weird. They, I'm going to use the word again, embrace it and have fun just as much as you do. And then comes a time where, you know, you go to primary school, you start high school and you're trying to fit in. You're trying to fit in to, you're trying to be normal. You know?
Patryk Labuzek: And that definition of being normal and it's different in different cultures. You know? You being normal in USA is different to me being normal in that stage in Ireland. And it's completely different to being normal if you're from India or Indonesia or Australia even. You know what I mean? The definition of being normal is different in every single culture. But the reality is at some stage of our life, we are trying to fit in. We're trying to find ourselves in the circle of normal people because we think, you know, to succeed, to be popular, to be social, to have friends, we need to be normal. And so that was me in high school ,trying to fit in. But at the same time, while I was doing all this, I was doing all those different, weird things that a lot of kids wouldn't do.
Patryk Labuzek: I mean I was starting my own company at the age of 14 and nobody even thought about doing that. You know? I was the only kid there who kind of actually started a company, a somewhat successful company, not going to lie, that got me a lot of good things. You know? It got me out to be able to do my first trip to Asia that opened my eyes, obviously opened me as a person. But that was weird. And not the only weird thing. I picked up martial arts and it wasn't just your normal martial arts that every other kid does. Like you know, you go to karate. You do Taekwondo. I was really down into all these sword fights and, you know, just my imagination, you know, my imagination was all over the place that I could be all that stuff in the movies.
Patryk Labuzek: And I was. And I picked up Japanese martial arts. You know, over the summer, I used to do back in the day, the feudal Japan, all that kind of stuff which fascinated me because I loved history and I loved medieval history on top of that. I loved it. And people found it weird and I wouldn't share it with people. I just wouldn't. That was part of my personal life. That was part of me being weird, that side that I just didn't share at all. And that was a big mistake because I'm come 18 when I started to become an instructor, I opened my first martial arts school, or school, it was part of the school. But I opened my first martial arts dojo. So, you know, a place of training. And if at that stage, I was spreading out the word that, you know, I'm doing this, all these great things and it was a lot of fun, maybe I would have a bunch of people interested in it.
Patryk Labuzek: You know? It would have been easier. But at the same time, when I wasn't telling people, I had to make contacts, I had to spread, the word then to attract people to do it, not from the perspective of money but from the perspective of teaching people, spreading knowledge and, you know, training with others which is a lot of fun. So in high school, I guess I was doing all those weird things that, you know, generally kids wouldn't do, but I wasn't talking about it. I was trying to fit in. I was keeping this a secret while being normal. Well, normal in.
Lucas P. Johnson: Whatever that means, right?
Patryk Labuzek: Whatever that means. And that wasn't great. I mean it wasn't great trying to be normal, trying to be like the rest of them because I wasn't me first of all. Like me is being creative, me is doing crazy stuff, me is doing all the things that I'm interested in but other kids clearly weren't. So I wasn't fitting in that standard of being normal. Therefore, I kept it a secret.
Lucas P. Johnson: You're different.
Patryk Labuzek: I was different. And that's completely, now that I look back at it, I wish we all could be different. I mean we all are deep down, but we're just keeping that weird part of ourselves a secret, putting it away in a shelf, closing it down. Yeah.
Lucas P. Johnson: We try to normalize each other.
Patryk Labuzek: We're different at home. We're not different when we close our door behind us. It puts us in a box, Lucas. That's what it does. It puts us in a square box and we're not thinking outside of it when we're trying to be normal. we're following. We're following a herd of sheep instead of being the wolf. And it's those people who are weird, who are not afraid to show being weird who spread their weird ideas that at the end of the day, they're the most successful people on our little planet. Look at all of them. It's those crazy ideas that they have, and they're not afraid to share them. Makes them billions. And I'm not only talking about money. It makes them billions in followers. It makes them billions in dollars in their bank account. It makes them billions in their own personal level. You know? Their personal successes. Billions of successes. Weird is good, and that's what we all have to write down in our journals, write down in our heads. Weird is good. Embrace it. Be weird.
Lucas P. Johnson: Paddy, we talked about journals at the beginning of this, but we do have something really cool coming out here soon. This is a hint, hint. We're going to be releasing the journals. Paddy and I just decided this hours ago that it would be something really great to help you as well as help us to be accountable for our actions, be accountable for what we say, but also be accountable for what we want to learn. And by you taking notes, and there's plenty of studies out there too. You can try to disprove me if you want. You can fact check me all you want. But when you write down your thoughts, it actually helps you learn. Your brain picks up on it better than you typing it out because you're writing it down. So you can go check out the research on it. I'm not going to say.
Patryk Labuzek: And I'm gonna jump right in there. Just recently, during the past week while I was doing some research on all that journaling part, something came up, and it said, now I'm not a hundred percent sure of the number, it's either 42% or 49%. But writing down your goal or an idea that you want to accomplish, writing it down is bringing, how do I even phrase it, writing down an idea, a dream, a goal makes you 49%.
Lucas P. Johnson: 49% more accountable or something like that? Right?
Patryk Labuzek: 49% more accountable. 49% more likely to achieve what you set out, what you wrote down.
Lucas P. Johnson: I did read something like that as well. And it's usually by accredited source if you're wondering. A lot of the stuff I read is based off of, even for work, it's just you're reading from very reputable sources. And I always ask what's the source, what's the source? Who read the book, who wrote the book? So who read it? I don't know. Who wrote it? I don't know. But point being said is you're more accountable if you hold yourself accountable. And if you write it down, even more accountable. I said I like that. You know? My weird self. So it's crazy that if you don't challenge yourself to do something based off of trying to norm with everyone else in society, you kind of lose track of who you are. And like you were saying, Paddy there's too many times that we get caugh,t living the norm as whatever that looks like.
Lucas P. Johnson: I will say from personal experience that I've sat in front of a computer and done stuff that may or may not make me happy, just going to put it that way, and looked at it afterwards and trying to think is this what I want to do for the rest of my life? And this is going back to the work. This is going back to not even current day. This this just going back to even the past when you're working in front of, say you're in college or say you're in high school. I'm just throwing ideas out there. And you're looking at something. Does it make you happy? Does this paper make me happy? Does this assignment, this project, so forth, make me happy? If you can look at that and it makes you happy, great. But are you truly unlocking your full potential?
Lucas P. Johnson: Are you truly coming out of your comfort zones? And I bring all these points up because these are all critical to being weird, to being you, to being who you want to be. I mean who you ultimately are. I do crazy stuff like just by myself like in my own house, in my own place. I like to be weird. But I wouldn't go on society and I don't know. I would nowadays. I wouldn't have even eight months ago. Eight months ago, I would have been, all right, let me go to this bar with my buddy, have a beer and just do the thing that people were doing, having another beer and continuing effort. Now I go to the beer and I like to change it, or go to the bar. Go to the beer. I go to the bar and I like to, all right, maybe want to have a shot at this place that doesn't have a bar or doesn't have beer. Okay. Let's figure out where we can get a shot. So, I mean I bring it up like that because I live in Charlotte and Charlotte has a lot of great breweries, a lot of fantastic places. But I like drinking beer, but I also like drinking stuff that doesn't have as many calories and also does the job if that's what we're going for. Now, if we're going for a different vision and that's even in the workplace or so forth is what can I do to make myself stand out. And Paddy, I don't know if I told you this, but I didn't want to be the guy that wore the standard socks. You know? They say that you can dress to impress. But everyone's wearing the same stuff.
Lucas P. Johnson: Now there's two things that people can't really judge you on, but you know you're wearing them. One is your boxers. Okay? You can wear whatever you want. You could wear a Speedo down there. You could wear covered something with like, it can have all these cool designs. You can wear. And then the other one, the second one is socks. Man, I have the coolest collection of socks and my boxers that go with my uniform as I call it. They stand out because those are two things where I feel like I have the opportunity to be a little weird. I can pick whatever I want. If I want to wear something goofy, I can do it. And I think that's where we need to go in society. And if we haven't, I don't think we've got there yet. I think now in 2020, buddy, I think people are truly coming out of their comfort zones. And if you're listening, this is an opportunity for you to come out. Let 2021 and all the rest of 2020 be an opportunity to challenge yourself to be your ultimate self. You know, Paddy, what is one thing that you try to do in your everyday life to just this is me, this is who I am? Whether it be, is it coffee? Is it coffee?
Patryk Labuzek: You well know that it might be. You know, at this stage, everything that I do is true to me. Everything. Every single thing that I do is true to me. And that goes even to, like you're saying, okay, so you started the topic of work, of professional life. And you know, I'm an automation engineer, blah, blah, blah. There's people coming to the office. Even now during the pandemic, during the lockdown that we have in Ireland, I am considered an essential worker. I need to be in the office. You know, when you're in the office, you're supposed to dress in a certain way. A shirt for starters. You know? Trousers, nice shoes. Like you're supposed to look professional. And to a large extent, I always wear these kinds of things. But for the past month, it's been very cold here. I'm not going to lie. It's been cold and I've just been like, you know, I know I'm supposed to wear a shirt.
Patryk Labuzek: I know that. You know? Because there could be a director coming in any second to talk about a certain project. But you know, deep inside, like I don't feel like wearing a shirt right now. I'm cold. I prefer to wear a hoodie and I do it. I don't care. I mean it doesn't go against the company's policy that it says in my contract I need to wear a shirt everyday to my work. I need to look nice. I need to look professional. But who says a nice hoodie is not looking professional? You know what I mean? So, you know, even little things like that or a little, not so little. But things like that, I'm just being myself. I've been there trying to put myself in a box, trying to be normal, as they say, and that didn't work. I wasn't happy.
Patryk Labuzek: I wasn't being me. So I've put this all aside and every decision now, essentially every decision that I make right now is not what my head tells me, not what my brain says, oh, that's what people do, you do the same. It's what I feel. If one day I feel like wearing a hoodie, I'm gonna wear a hoodie. If the other day I feel like wearing, I don't know, socks with blue stripes and yellow circles or something like that, I'm going to do it because that's what I feel that's what's going to make me happy in that day. If I feel like not having a coffee in the morning, I'm not going to have a coffee. But then the other day I'm feeling like, okay, I'm going to have a coffee now, then driving to the office and have two more. That's what I'm going to do. So, you know, just cutting the long story short, essentially what I'm doing is thinking about myself. And we kind of moved on this topic last time about being selfish. Selfish is not necessarily bad. We all have to be selfish sometimes
Lucas P. Johnson: Perspective, perspective. It's truly perspective. Being selfish is bad, but being selfish, I'm saying that with a -ish.
Patryk Labuzek: -ish.
Lucas P. Johnson: Being selfish, meaning taking the time for yourself, taking the time to care about yourself, taking the time to embrace yourself is critical. It is essential to being the person that you need to be. 2020 has been a rough year. Can I say that? Can I get a whoop, whoop.
Patryk Labuzek: Whoop. 2020 has been a year none of us expected.
Lucas P. Johnson: But let me ask you . Let me ask you this. I mean this is to you that's listening right now. Has 2020 been a year or what? Has it been a year to embrace? Has it been a year to challenge? Has it been a year to think? Has it been a year to build? Has it been a year to conquer? I know 2020 has been a year for many. I mean even looking at the stats in domestic violence in the U.S. at least it has, marriages, divorce rates, everything is up. 2020 has been a year. 2020 has been a year, but 2020 doesn't have to be the end. 2020 is just the beginning. Let 2021 and so on and so forth be years that you can embrace the challenges, the opportunities, the dreams, the expectations, the love. Because there's so much more out there, buddy. There is so much more out there. There's so many more things that you can accomplish. And it's just great to know that you've got people in your corner. And if you think you don't, Paddy and I are in your corner. We're here right now with you whether you're on a drive, whether you're on a workout or, you know, you're just sitting in your bed, listening to a podcast. Cool on you. It's going to be different.
Patryk Labuzek: 100%. And 2020 has been a year and a half. You know? It was a bad and a good year at the same time, you know, for a lot of people who have been busy with their lives. It gave a pause, a necessary pause. And it was up to them to decide what they're going to do with their pause. Are they going to waste it or are they going to use that valuable time to analyze their life, to change things in their life? To think about what is truly that makes them happy and what they want to do with their life? And I'm just going to say this, you know, life is a series of ups and downs as we all know, and we need those downs to appreciate those ups. We need the lows to appreciate the highs. And we've talked about this in the last podcast, but it's truly applicable to everything. You know? Where does the weird fit in? Where does it fit in? I feel like when we are weird, we're at our heights because we are ourselves.
Lucas P. Johnson: Happy.
Patryk Labuzek: When we're normal, we're at the median. You know? We're there at this one line where we're just like everybody else. It's not exciting. It's boring. It's not us.
Lucas P. Johnson: Paddy, you have just made an amazing point right there. The normalcy factor. When you are in a situation where you are faced to be normal, and you find someone where you can finally let your guard down and you thought you just had to be normal with that person. And all of a sudden, it clicks. And then you're just you. I mean there's some people you have to, it's just how society is. You have to be normal. You take that second and you realize you can let your guard down. And all of a sudden, that relationship grows. It expands. It builds. All these things happen. Magic happens because you are you. So with that, Paddy, do you have anything else to add for today? This has been a knowledge bomb and a half man.
Patryk Labuzek: Yeah. There's one last thing that I definitely want to mention is that, you know, when you're being weird, when you're being yourself, everything that comes your way at that very time, all the friends that you make are your friends for life, are going to become your family. Because if they can appreciate you being weird, I mean they support you. They'll support you with anything. You know? And that's who you want to have in your life. That's the tribe you want to have. That's the people you want to surround yourself who are going to empower you to conquer this world. And I'm going to leave it at that.
Lucas P. Johnson: And will wrap up, however you want to say it, I want this to be a note that this is not targeting anyone in our lives. This is just experiences that have let us learn, let us build. There's no loss in life. It's a new thing for me to take grasp of, but I'm trying to apply it. It's win or learn. We never lose. We win or we learn. Some things don't go in our favor, but we learn from them. Someone passes away. You know, we had a lot of great victories with that person. We learned a lot from that person. This is the way you have to start thinking. So these people that have helped shape us, don't take this to heart. This is just us being us and telling our stories. You know, you are amazing. You are great. We're grateful for you. So with that, I'm going to pass it over to Paddy for this week's homework. And please, please take note of this. Take note in your journal and act on it for this week. Go ahead, Paddy.
Patryk Labuzek: Homework number one, my friends, read Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds by David Goggins. It's a new release, but it carries some unbelievable value. We appreciate it. And we feel like you will too.
Lucas P. Johnson: On Amazon, right? Yeah.
Patryk Labuzek: Yeah, it is. Yeah. Check it out. Number two, that's an exciting one. I'm really excited about it because that's just me being weird right now. Start a journal or check ours out. And that's coming out soon and I'm just super excited about this because I'm one of those people that I don't journal every day. I don't write everything down. But like you were saying Lucas, and it was a great point. I write things down in the moment. You know, I have my journal right here I'm going to show you. Nothing special. Just a blue journal. Little hardback. You know? Just to keep my things safe. And it's literally me brainstorming a lot of ideas, me jotting down things that I learn every day from different podcasts, from different people, from you, Lucas, from what we're saying right now, you know, just points. They don't have to be long paragraphs. It doesn't have to be an essay. Just a little thing. Sometimes it helps me to organize my life. Sometimes it helps me to be creative, to kind of put things out there before I kind of put everything together. It's great. I love journaling. And I'm super excited that we in Project Dream Mastery, we're working on something that could be super valuable both to our lives, but I feel like to our viewers and listeners as well, something that will stand out for sure and will be applicable to all our lives, and it's going to shape us in the way we want to move forward.
Lucas P. Johnson: And it has a twist. So there's going to be some components of that. It's not just a notebook. It almost is like a workbook. Working through your life. I mean you don't have to, we're not saying go after this. This is just something that we want to embrace in our life, something we want to use for ourselves. And if you want to use it, go for it. We're not expecting anything from you, but this is something that we know is going to help us stay on track with our goals, our dreams, our mission of, you know, the three pillars and defy expectations, dreaming big and loving deeply. So, with that, I will wrap with this. We just launched our Patreon membership community where you can become one of our elite supporters and gain exclusive access to early releases, live streams with Paddy and I which is pretty awesome I think. Maybe. I don't know. And Q&A. We have a few different tiers available, some pretty sweet perks, maybe some merch. So make sure to check them out and consider supporting the show. Go to ProjectDreamMastery.com and click the red button that says become a Patreon to learn more. As we reach our monthly goals, we will have some pretty sweet giveaways. Also, make sure to give us a subscribe, all that good stuff they say on all these videos and stuff now. That's pretty important, apparently, I guess. Help us grow please. Please and thank you. If you have not already, please make sure review the show, subscribe, like and share so we can reach more amazing listeners like you. All of our shows are available in both audio, video and written form. So make sure to check out our website to access the full experience. Again, thank you so much for joining us today. We look forward to seeing you on the next episode to come. We'll talk to you soon.
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A show completely focused on mastering dreams, unlocking potential, recognizing opportunities and utilizing them to build a full, happy life without any compromises.
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MEET THE HOSTSCOACHESFOUNDERS
Lucas P. Johnson
This guy is a dream seeking, travel loving, extrovert with a passion for helping others. Lucas is also the Founder & CEO of multiple startup companies including Coachington
Patryk Labuzek
This guy has a passion for traveling the world and making an impact everywhere he goes. Patryk is the Co-Founder & CTO of “PDM” and also runs alwayssomewhere.net
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